Message From the Universe: A Life Not Like ANY Other Life!

“Wherever a new disagreement emerges, so does new hope for enlightenment, on both sides of the fence. Oh joy, The Universe” Like anything else in life that is sure to happen, besides taxes and death, is disagreements. It is somewhat preferable to have disagreements than not. Not agreeing on something is the best way to … Continue reading “Message From the Universe: A Life Not Like ANY Other Life!”

“Wherever a new disagreement emerges, so does new hope for enlightenment, on both sides of the fence.

Oh joy,
The Universe”

Like anything else in life that is sure to happen, besides taxes and death, is disagreements. It is somewhat preferable to have disagreements than not. Not agreeing on something is the best way to express your feelings and emotions. Unless you are a carbon copy of yourself, or as many would call that cloning, it can be difficult to have someone who agrees with you 24/7. In some cases, when you have a business partner that sees eye to eye with you with everything that has to do with the company’s growth, you are in luck. However, many of us sees things differently, and all this is caused somewhat by our upbringing or our previous business and life experience. It is imminent that disagreements will occur at the workplace or at home. As you are dealing with your significant other on a daily basis, you might agree on a lot of things because you both see eye to eye on a lot of how the mundane daily life has to run, however, it will come at a time when disagreements will occur. Depending on how you deal with them, you will need to handle it in a very calm and polite way. Name calling has no place during that time.

Firstly, you need to determine the origin of the disagreement: What caused it? Why is it here? What are the point of view on the matter being discussed between both of you?

Secondly, you need to figure out the best plausible solution that both of you can agree. Do not let the other convince you otherwise. Share your feelings, do not be intimidated. Showing fear will give place for the other to have its way all the time. Remember to always stay in control of the situation. If they raise their voice to get heard, you do not need to do the same. Tell them to calm down, and if needed, to step back and talk about it when he or she have calmed down. It is important for you to realize that raising voices is the result of you raising your voice as well, so the only defensive response is to get heard as well, hence, raising their voice. So by keeping your voice at low decibels, you do not allow the other person to elevate their tone, and if they do, your response can go this way: ” I didn’t hear myself scream, why are you yelling? or I don’t see why you are so defensive or angry about it, we are just talking as mature adults, or I understand this can be a sensitive subject for you as it is for me, but you don’t see me get all pissed off, so I would appreciate you doing the same”. As you can see, you take control of the situation here and do not allow the other one to pursue their motive to intimidate you or take control of the situation, which leaves you feeling guilty about what is being discussed.

As some of my PhD classes were related to human psychology, I came to realization that the tools acquired during my apprenticeship are extremely useful during my daily interaction with my business partners and significant other. I always feel like going back to my old self at time, which is opting for the defensive approach but I digress. I take time to understand the problem and use my new found knowledge to handle all problems and find the most plausible solution. It is a win win scenario for everyone. They get free therapy and everyone end up happy.

The Inner And Outer Worlds Of People

Some people are driven from within, and other people are pushed from without, too many others. The people really, that are driven from within are usually the winners, while those motivated purely by outer things are usually the losers. Sure, luck, fortune and all of that may figure into the variance in results, do not get me wrong, but those driven from within have the automatic advantage. Indeed, to be motivated from within yourself is the greatest thing in the world, for you have the power plant from within to go on, even if you do temporarily fail sometimes. Those motivated from without purely have to depend on luck and fortune to get them through, for perseverance is not in them.

Think about these realities for a moment. To be driven from within is the greatest thing in existence, then. Otherwise, you are like a kid expecting a candy reward for everything done right and nothing is there to “reward you”.

So, I get it if you do not yet, the genuine reward has to be made from within yourself. Now, I am not saying that life is as bad as politics, or as amoral as a winning game of poker, or as automatically moral as business can get at its best, but, I am saying that real motivation has to come from within or it is not there at all. After all, the outer world without inner motivation is a cold place to be, do and have anything, anyhow.

Think right now, those who are psychologically oriented about the “locus of control theory”. Those who have an internal locus of control get their motivation from within, it is that simple. Those who have an external locus of control are like the dogs of Pavlov salivating at a bell or more in a more polite way: They are motivated by seeming rewards outside of themselves. Think about that for a moment. When the power plant is inside of you, you own the power. When the power plant is a battery outside of you, you had better develop some strength from within. Some of the best things, opportunities and realities in life are missed because the reality of internal motivation is missed. Without power from within yourself, you are nowhere but giving your power away. When you can motivate yourself whatever happens, that is when you start owning the power, impetus and opportunity